What is self-love (and what is not)

Self-love can be many things since it has very different forms.

In my opinion, as a self-love coach who helps people to heal their relationships with themselves, I feel like self-love is the stem of everything. The more you love, honor, appreciate, respect, and accept yourself, and the more your relationship is balanced with yourself, the better your life becomes.

It is a crucial part if you want to become happy, find your soul’s purpose and become fulfilled.


It is everything that connects and aligns you with your true self. It consists of self-awareness, self-care, self-confidence, self-acceptance, self-trust, self-respect, self-compassion, and self-appreciation. If you keep facing the same struggles in your life, let it be relationships, career, you may be lacking in one or more areas of self-love.

Self-love means taking care of yourself on every level.

Loving yourself means being conscious and aware that you deserve a
healthy, balanced life and working towards it.

But for some reason, we often mistake it with thinking self-love means overindulgence. For example, you might think you could eat ten muffins at once out of self-love because “it makes you feel happy.” But at the end of the day, it will harm your body and your mental health and moderation will do you better. Don’t get me wrong, a muffin every once in a while is great, but not ten at once, and  definitely not every day.

Just to mention a few examples:

  • Standing up for yourself
  • Owning who you are
  • Prioritizing your self-care and wellbeing
  • Saying no to toxic things and people
  • Trusting yourself
  • Acknowledging your values
  • Being connected with your feminine energy and your inner power

These are all parts of self-love.

Self-love is not always super easy. It takes effort, and it is best practiced daily. 

What isn’t self-love, aka self-love myths

Here are some common self-love myths.

Myth #1: Self-love means you are selfish or you don’t care about other people

Self-love is anything but selfish.

Self-love does not mean that you don’t care about others. It means that you learned to find love within yourself. If you don’t carry any love with you, you can’t give love to others.

So, it’s the primordial expression of love. The more love you give to yourself, to more you will get. It doesn’t mean you have to be self-centered and not worry about others.

The more you love yourself, the better your job, relationships, and every area of your life.

If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you??

The more you love yourself, the more magic is in your life. The better your relationship is with yourself, the more you can give to others and give your best self to them.❤

Myth #2: Self-love means is egoistic 

Self-love isn’t about you being obsessed with yourself and ignoring everyone else.

Just think about the oxygen mask on a flight, you always have to put it on yourself first, so you can help others after.?

If your glass is full, you can fill up the glass of others easier. ?

Myth #3: Self-love means you are vain

Self-love does not mean having an unrealistically high idea of who you are. It does not mean thinking you are better than others.

Self-love means accepting who you are. And that also means accepting that you make mistakes and you are not perfect. Recognizing your mistakes and striving to become a better person is a part of self-love.

Myth #4: Self-love means you are positive about yourself all the time

This is impossible and not realistic. Self-love doesn’t mean you never judge yourself, or have bad days, or have bad emotions. You might catch them and transform them faster when you love yourself, though;)

How you can practice self-love in your life


There are many ways you can practice self-love in your life.


Notice your strengths
● Recognize how you can improve without being too harsh on yourself
● Practice meditation and mindfulness
● Take a hot bath to relax you
● Surround yourself with people that make you feel happy
● Eat healthy food
● Sleep enough hours
● Make sure your living space is clean and comfy for you
● Do what you love

Why self-love is important and how it can impact your life


If all of the above didn’t make it obvious enough, self-love is extremely important for a happy life. 🙂

Self-love makes you realize you are the creator of your own life. You created everything that is happening to you, and you can create better circumstances.

Self-love empowers you. You should know that you carry immense powers. You can bring life to anything your heart desires. But first, you need to recognize that power within yourself. 

If you feel like it is time to bring more self-love into your life, but you don’t know, feel free to schedule a free connection call with me here, where we can talk about how that could happen and look.

With Love,