The quote “Everything happens for a reason” had been so powerfully present in my life, that it has become my motto.
I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Have you ever felt like that there was something you really wanted or you simply were expecting a particular outcome in your life? But it didn’t happen the way you wanted it or you didn’t get what you wished for, and you so were upset, disappointed and sad? Then a couple days later something much better came to your way and it turned out to be much better than what you wanted as an outcome originally. Yes, this is exactly what I am talking about.
Things occurred in my life many times, that only made sense much later. I was furious, and disheartened when something didn’t turn out the way I would have wanted it, but little did I know that something much better was coming.
Then, it ALL MADE SENSE. It wasn’t the right time. I wasn’t ready for that outcome yet. First I needed to experience something else.
I know how hard it is to keep this “whatever happens, happens” mindset all the time and just easily let go of what we want to happen. Since we are human beings, we easily get attached to things, expectations and we tend to put ourselves in thrilling anticipation for events in our lives. The thing is, we can’t always or rather never really can predict the end result.
One thing I learned is that it is better to overcome the initial disappointment fast.
How? Well, I tried screaming in pillows, breaking plates, going to a boxing class, going for a run, cry over sad songs, eat some comfort-food (at least a healthier version). It is okay to let out and to feel your emotions, you don’t have to pretend everything is fine when you feel like you could explode inside. Let it out however it feels good for you, just stop torturing yourself with trying to find the answer for the why. It will show itself, you will see the big picture. Just accept it that it wasn’t the right time and the right place for you right now. It might show up later, or something much better will happen.
Most of the time when something like this occurred in my life, everything worked out perfectly at the end and in a much better way than I expected.
I can tell you a perfect personal example :
It happened a couple years ago.
I got a new job offer which didn’t seem that stable. I didn’t know all of the details of what I would actually be doing, but I liked it, and it was a better opportunity than my previous job. I decided to take the position and quit my current job I had been at for 3 years.
Two months later, my new boss called me in for a meeting and told me that unfortunately, things are not going well at the company, so he needs to let me go.
It was right before Christmas, so you can imagine how it made me feel…
I was so disappointed and angry at the same time. I was so pissed and felt so desperate
IT IS NOT FAIR! How could he do that to me? To let me go right before Christmas? I gave up my stable job for his company… I felt devastated for 2 months. I kept asking myself the whys: why now? Or why me? Why this way?
I just didn’t understand that the Universe was trying to show me a different direction. Something that was coming my way, I just didn’t know about at that moment.
I got employed by a company that offered me really fair conditions, a much bigger salary than I ever got, a nice work environment, with nice co-workers!! (Little did I know that it was much more than that, you will read about it in a moment)
Then it hit me.
Tears started to fall down on my cheek, and I had the epiphany!
But the story didn’t stop here, something else happened, that gave an even a more profound proof that everything happens for a reason.
I met a boy at this new company literally like a couple weeks later, who also just came to the Hungarian location of the company for the first time, and that boy now happens to be my love for over 3 years and I plan to spend the rest of my life with him!
So not only I got an amazing job, but I also got the love of my life!
And in that very moment, I realized, and I needed to see the whole picture.
First, it rains and then comes the rainbow. Darkness comes first then comes the light. You learn a lesson and next time you will not do the same mistake again. You miss the bus and shortly after it turns out that it got into an accident. You leave your phone home and when you go back for it, you happen to meet someone very important. You get fired from your job and then you happen to find the love of life at the next one.
It all comes together. We don’t always have to see the reason right away, or we don’t always have to know the why. We can always decide to laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, dance in the rain and remind ourselves, that everything happens for a reason.
The Universe always has your back.